Category Archives: Elusive Tranquility

Elusive Tranquility is my personal blog about parenting a special needs child and her siblings. I started this blog many years ago as a way to share my parenting stories and to connect with other parents of special needs children. I have three children, Jenny who is in college, and Anna and Dominic, both in elementary school. After having Anna, the way I view the world shifted. Anna has PDD-NOS (a form of autism), intellectual disability, epilepsy, microcephaly, hypotonia, hypothyroidism, kyphoscoliosis, sensory integration dysfunction, hearing loss, high myopia, mood disorder, and was failure to thrive from 6 months to 3 years. Bless her heart, her life is hard but she never complains. My son, Dominic, also has ADHD and is intellectually gifted. Anna experiences life at a different pace and with a different viewpoint, and has challenged everything I know about motherhood. Having always been very empathic myself, I feel what she feels and see what she sees… and this gives me a unique vision when exploring my artistic side. I have connected with many other special needs parents through this blog and love hearing from you.

The Photographer Within’s Project 52 ~ A Year in Song has been an amazing journey to watch! Each week, our TPW members continue to inspire me with their artistry and creativity. Our lyrical prompt for Week 35 of The Photographer Within‘s P52 was from She Blinded Me With Science by Thomas Dolby and the lyrics we had to shoot […]

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Happy Mother’s Day!!! To my Mom… Who is always there for me, for my children, and for all strays… people and animal alike. You have taught me to put myself in others’ shoes, to love unconditionally, to give, to be patient and kind, and most of all, to be the best mother I can be […]

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  • Shirley (your grateful mom) - I can’t find the right words to express how deeply your post has touched me…. I love you very much. You are the best mom in the whole world.ReplyCancel

  • Lori Verlinghieri - Sweet, wonderful, wise Holly… how do you always have the ability to express what is in all of our hearts? Especially your words about Anna… I want to steal your thoughts and embroider them on a pillow for Jacob :). I’m so lucky to have you in my life.ReplyCancel

The Photographer Within’s Project 52 ~ A Year in Song has been an amazing journey to watch! Each week, our TPW members continue to inspire me with their artistry and creativity. The lyrics for Week Twelve are from Closer to Free by Bodeans and the lyrics we had to shoot were “Everybody wants a good good friend.” Last year, Anna’s […]

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  • Anna - Beautifully written! If I was living close I would wrap my arms around her to be just there for her.ReplyCancel

Something isn’t quite right with Anna. It started Tuesday night. Dominic is in the choir this year and has been practicing for a couple of months for the holiday show. Mom and I strategically planned the whole night. She brought Anna in later, right before the show started. I had seats saved near the end […]

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  • beckie - (((hugs))) I do not have experience with special needs children so I’m afraid I can’t offer any insights or advice. I simply wanted to say that I admire your openness and willingness to say things that others may not understand. To put yourself out there like that takes guts – and commitment and passion and love for your child(ren). I hope you find something that brings peace to your home and peace for Anna soon <3ReplyCancel

  • Nina - I’m sorry it’s been such a rough week. Tomorrow is a new day and you already made it through most of this week. Hugs, friend. <3ReplyCancel

  • Kimberly Leverett Osburn - Hi Holly,

    I wish there were something I could do to help. My daughter has two boys with Asperger’s Syndrome. It’s difficult to manage everything on a good day, much less when you, the child or maybe both of you are having a “bad” day. I pray the “good” days will out weigh the bad for you and your family. I wish you and Aimee could meet and talk. I know you’d have a lot in common and perhaps could lean on each other.
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  • Misty - You are a beautiful, patient, and truly great mother. Hugs to you as you all move through this. If I can help be an extrensic motivator let me know (movie night with Misty and Macie, etc.) Love you guys!ReplyCancel

  • Ashley Spaulding - Your honesty is so amazing. I know it can’t be easy for you to speak from your heart and share so much, but I hope you know you’re helping someone, somewhere. You, Holly, are a beautiful person and a wonderful mom, and even though it’s easier said than done, try to remember that you’re doing the absolute best you can…and your absolute best is a darn good job.ReplyCancel

  • Tracy Bradbury - Hugs Holly, you are a wonderful Mum and I too know all too well how difficult bringing a special needs child up is, we do need to talk about these things as all too often they just get swept under the carpet! Remember you are doing a fantastic job <3ReplyCancel

  • Heidi - You are an AMAZING mother! <3 You inspire me Holly-you really do. I know that what you go through is not easy-very few ppl get how gut wrenching it is, how hard it is to just carry on with a regular day and maintain some level of sanity and peace, and you do that AND more-Before I had a special needs kid, I admit that I did not 'get it.' Did I ever judge? NO. But nothing prepares you for how hard it really is or what families like ours go through, and your honesty in sharing it helps us all. <3 Before Joey, I used to think that my kid's behavior was a result of all my parenting decisions. Ha!!!! How naive I was…Then we had Joey and he has suffered from behavior like Anna's. And I KNOW it is not anything I have done, I KNOW it is totally 100% beyond my control and a result of his diseased brain. And I know that even though you know that, and I know that, we still question ourselves-it's what moms do. <3 But these things are beyond our control, and I want you to remind yourself of that when you doubt your decisions-you are managing this storm gracefully, Holly. You truly are. Some days are hard. You are strong my friend. <3 Praying for better days my friend. <3ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Spencer - My dear sweet friend, you are a fabulous mother and have offered me so much support with my Theo over the years. Even last night you were there listening to my problems when you were so worried about your own child. Remember Holly please just how much you are loved and how many lives you have touched with your kindness. Rebecca xxx
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Anna is having a hard time at school. Every day she comes home with her glasses completely cloudy with dried tears. And it’s making me heart sick for her. I met with her teacher Friday afternoon to discuss why she’s crying. The theory is that art class, one of only two classes where she is […]

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